Wednesday, January 13, 2010

" I'm Still Above Ground "

GOSSIP


Thank you all for the e-mails sent in concern of my health and my absence on the blog.
I am doing good health wise although I really had a rough time with a terrible sinus infection that settled in my chest. However my worst problem of the New Year was more of an emotional problem than illness. I think emotional illness is worse! Someone very close to us, someone we thought the world of, caused some innocent people some very serious emotional distress by spreading untrue gossip about them. We knew this person loved to gossip but the telling of things that were untrue came as a real surprise to us! Idle gossip can devastate people's lives and cause irreversible harm. I detest gossip and when someone starts it, I usually make my exit.
I have way to much to do in my life to spend one minute of it listening to gossip. I have expressed to this person many times, stop gossiping! It has really upset me and so I've thrown myself into re-doing a guest bedroom and gathering supplies to re-do two bathrooms. I really haven't felt like blogging and I hope you all will understand and be patient with me. I WILL be back soon.............................

30 comments:

Betsy from Tennessee said...

Carol, I'm so sorry... Why can life be so hard sometimes???? I am extremely upset about something --which is 'simple' and 'silly' in the big scheme of things... BUT--I am upset nevertheless--so I understand emotional problems, today especially...

Glad you are better healthwise.. Hang in there.
Hugs,
Betsy

Nezzy said...

Oh bless your heart! That tongue CAN cut like a double edged sword as the Bible tells us. I am so sorry that this stinkin' gossip has affected you so. Take care and know my prayers are with you for both physical and emotional healing. Meanwhile enjoy your projects and we'll just anxiously await some lovely pics of the finished products!

God bless you sweet gal!!!

Elenka said...

I try not to be part of gossip as well, but sometimes it's hard to determine if the gossip is true or not. What if the information given to you is true, and then you tell someone else about it. Is that still gossip? Trouble with me is, I believe anything anyone tells me. Why would someone lie to me, is my theory. Naive, I know. Sorry about all your pain.....

Vicki Lane said...

So glad you're better. And the Rockwell Illustration is one of my favorites!

Wobegon Cottage(alice) said...

Only Time will heal the pain. It is most difficult when someone we trust or even just know well causes pain to others. I have never understood that kind of person and never will. Hope the "son" shines on you today and know many people will be praying for you.

T said...

Don't discount your feelings - they are yours and you are entitled to how it affects you.

I am glad to hear you're feeling better - we've been battling pneumonia and such for the last 12 days here.

Deb Shucka said...

It's amazing how destructive words can be. I'm sorry that you're being hurt by this. Take good care of yourself. I hope the remodeling helps work off some steam.

A Brit in Tennessee said...

Well, I was at the point of setting my GPS and driving over to your place and checking on you !
Glad to hear the chest infection has cleared, sorry to learn you have been under the weather from insensitve people who gossip.
{{Hugs}}.
Now, lets see what you've been creating this time ;)

Becca's Dirt said...

There are those kind of people who aren't happy if they aren't talking about someone. I am sorry you are having to deal with something like this right now. I hate gossip too and won't waste my time listening to it. I too have better things to do than listen to talk about someone else whom they have no business talking about.

Glad you are feeling better physically.

Merisi said...

I am so sorry, Carol!
I hope taking on all those projects make you feel better. And then dear guests, to put joy in your heart!

Elizabeth Bradley said...

A hiatus is not a bad thing. Take Care.

Elizabeth Spann Craig/Riley Adams said...

Hope things improve soon. Maybe this will be a point where the perpetrator of the gossip will realize how much harm can come from it? Let's hope.

Elizabeth
Mystery Writing is Murder
Mystery Lovers’ Kitchen

lakeviewer said...

Sorry to hear that. Some people never grow up.

crochet lady said...

We all need a little break sometimes and if you don't feel like blogging then you shouldn't, otherwise it will become a chore and not a blessing.

Glad you're feeling better and hope you can spend some time doing peaceful things away from the gossip this week.

RNSANE said...

I certainly understand that, sometime, one must be away from blogging...but I am very sorry that your absence is because of such a sad reason. I hate gossip as well, it can be very malicious, at times.

Pat in east TN said...

I'm glad your health is better ... dig into your projects and perhaps that will relieve your mind of those gossip-y problems.

I look forward to you blogging again, here and on THE BOOK HOUSE.

Arkansas Patti said...

You have been missed and I am sorry it was for unfortunate reasons.
Hope you are totally healed soon, physically and emotionally.
Gossip is so 7th grade and some people never grow up.
I just hope whoever was the victim of her thoughtlessness and stupidity recovers.
We can only hope that what goes around.....

Pat @ Mille Fiori Favoriti said...

I'm so sorry to hear you have been ill and then upset Carol. I hate gossip --no good comes from it and it often hurts the innocent.

Take your time to feel better physically and emotionally!

Midlife Jobhunter said...

You take your time. I'm sorry this has happened. I have that Rockwell photo posted at my house - to remind us not to partake in that easily attained practice.

Take good care.

Callie said...

Good to hear you are feeling better. Hope you got a lot of rest and hope that your projects bring some peace.

Trixie Goforth said...

Thanks to all y'all I can't enjoy gossipin' anymore and it was my favorite!!!

Talk to you soon, baby!

Marguerite said...

I'm so sorry about this betrayal of friendship. I know how hard that can be to deal with. Glad to hear that you're feeling better, physically! Your projects sound fun and hope they help to take your mind off other things. Wishing you sunshine and happy times! Love, Marguerite

JoyceAnn said...

So glad to hear you're feeling better. Hope all the stresses become blessings for you real soon.

~ Be Blessed My Friend ~

NitWit1 said...

I've been under the weather myself but slowly returning to life.

Being in the political arena of a small town I am told lots of stories by men and women.

Believe me, we women take the brunt of gossip disease. But stand outside a small church some Sunday a.m. after services near a circle of men and listen to "men-talk!" I cannot tell any difference.

Unfortunately, my experience is I need to halve what is told me to get anywhere near the truth.

Secondly, I've reined in or tempered my own repetition of information, by prefacing it with a condition,"I was told" This maybe rumor," this is second or third hand information, or heresay.

You might say not to repeat it at all and that is good, but if it involves matters concerning my office, I have to check out the facts.

My findings are there is usually some truth in what has been said but it is often colored by the person who said it or saw it, etc. That also is the problem with witnesses in a trial. No two witnesses will see every event exactly the same.

However, my experience as a public official has probably been a better teacher the damage of gossip than any other thing.

One voter with whom I befriended, said she originally knew nothing about me except I was a pal of the Mayor and a drinking buddy, neither of which were true. the Mayor supported my candidancy but I am a teetotaler and certainly not a drinking buddy of anybody. I supported the Mayor but would not have even considered myself in the circle of friends.

We'll look forward to your return.

But I understand anything carelessly said, is almost impossible to repair. Early life experiences have taught this lesson to me many times.

Titania said...

Hi Carol, I am glad you feel better again. Hope the New Year brings you good health and happiness.
I have gone right back to read all your interesting posts.
sometimes we (I) get this blogged out feeling and one has to have a rest.
Gossip is ugly, does a lot of harm and is most of the time untrue!
All my best wishes for you and your loved ones. T.

jeannette stgermain said...

Really glad that you're feeling better physically, Carol!
I already wondered, if you were "occupied" somewhere else...you're doing the right thing -working on something positive!
Hopefully you can let go - gossip is addicting to someone who cannot/will not see the weak parts of their own.

Gaston Studio said...

So glad you're finally feeling like you'll stay "above ground!"

Gossiping is vicious, no other way to say it. Next time, just walk away; eventually she'll get the message.

Jen Chandler said...

Carol I am sorry to hear this. Gossip is horrible. I hate it. It makes me so angry to hear a conversation begin with, "Now, I'm not one to gossip but..."

I'm glad you're feeling better and it seems you have plenty to help divert your mind from the hurt. Praying for you dear friend.

Jen

Margaret Hall said...

Ohhhh, that dreaded gossip!!! Served cold with a side dish of lies~!!...UNREAL, that you have had to endure this emotional distress and issue.....
Some people are cruel, un-thinking and just downright non-thinking~!!...
Oft times, that throwing one's self into a project can do wonders for the Soul~!! Delving into something that is fun and productive can wane the pain, so they say!...
Carol...I wish for the very best with the re-decorating, and I know that we will see you soon and we shan't wonder about you!!!
We shall rally at your most welcomed return!!!

She Writes said...

Gossip does go down (for those who like it) like a choice morsel to the inner most parts. I memorized this verse years ago. It spoiled gosspi for me completely. I detest it and am very alerted by any woman who goes there around me. She will always be at a distance. Isn't it the most horrid thing we can do? Eat each other alive with words. UGh.